The reality is, women want both.
That way, your intimacy life will get much more interesting and enjoyable, and the two of you will feel even more connected.
What if it is as simple as, just as the concept that has been asserted through the years that men want a mother for their children but a date in the bedroom, if it is the same concept for women? Try making her comfortable by sharing some of your fantasies and let her know that you are okay with talking about all that stuff, so she should be fine with that as well.
From my experience, I would say that the only way of saving it would be for both of you to enter a course of marital counselling from an experienced therapist, counsellor, or minister of religion.
With the advancement of time and protests, there are women in what were known as 'male territory' and men doing 'women's work'.
It also opened up the dialogue for women about how different people in their couple relationship express and show care.